‘I
don’t
think
infidelity
is
the
cause
of
a
lot
of
breakdowns
in
marriages.’
Photograph:
Kind
courtesy
AR
Rahman/Instagram
Oscar-winning
composer
A
R
Rahman
and
his
wife
Saira
Banu
decided
to
separate
after
nearly
three
decades
of
marriage.
Their
lawyer
Vandana
Shah
confirmed
that
the
decision
was
mutual
and
emphasised
the
importance
of
respecting
the
family’s
privacy
during
this
difficult
time.
‘The
divorce
hasn’t
happened
yet.
I
am
representing
both
of
them.
I
can’t
reveal
the
reason
but
it
is
a
marriage
of
29
years.
In
every
marriage,
ups
and
downs
are
common.
It
is
a
painful
decision
but
a
joint
one.
Family’s
privacy
must
be
respected
at
this
point
of
time,’
Shah
told
ANI.
Earlier,
the
lawyer
spoke
about
Bollywood
marriages
in
general
on
The
Chill
Hour
podcast,
shedding
light
on
the
many
reasons
why
a
celeb
marriage
breaks.
‘Their
lives
are
very
different.
I
don’t
think
infidelity
is
the
cause
of
a
lot
of
breakdowns
in
marriages.
What
is
the
cause
of
that
marriage
breakdown?
One
is
boredom
in
a
marriage
because
you
have
seen
it
all.
They
move
on
from
one
marriage
to
another
because
of
boredom
and
that
is
very
peculiar
to
Bollywood
and
super-rich
families,’
Shah
had
said.
‘Secondly,
I
think
they
live
very
different
sexual
lives
which
are
not
out
there.
The
expectations
from
a
sex
life
are
much
higher
than
maybe
a
normal
person’s
marriage.’
‘Third,
adultery
happens
and
one-night
stands
really
don’t
matter
as
much.
I’m
not
a
part
of
Bollywood,
I’m
just
saying
from
whatever
cases
have
come
to
me.
The
main
issues
are
boredom,
not
being
given
enough
importance
or
having
to
listen
to
others
who
are
not
part
of
the
marriage.
Others
can
be
the
mother,
the
brother
who
is
providing
or
the
father-in-law.’
Saira
and
Rahman
wed
in
1995,
and
have
three
children.
