‘Today, I Can’t Get Married…’

‘Marriage
is
a
step
that
you
need
to
think
and
re-think
again
and
again.’

Aamir
Khan
opened
up
about
a
lot
of
things,
including
the
three
women
in
his
life,
on
a
podcast
with
Raj
Shamani.

The
actor
spoke
about
how
he
married
Reena
Dutta
just
after
four
months
of
knowing
her.
She
was
19
at
the
time,
while
Aamir
was
21.

‘Marriage
is
a
step
that
you
need
to
think
and
re-think
again
and
again.

Us
waqt
jawaani
ke
josh
mein,
you
do
not
understand
lot
of
things
and
you
get
married,’
Aamir
said
during
the
podcast.

‘I
turned
21
on
March
14
(1986)
and
legally,
it
was
possible
for
me
to
get
married
only
after
a
month
of
reaching
this
age.
So
the
first
working
day
of
the
marriage
bureau
was
April
18
and
I
got
married
on
that
day,’
he
added.

Recalling
his
dating
days
with
Reena,
he
said,
‘We
knew
each
other
for
only
four
months.
We
spent
very
few
moments
with
each
other
in
those
four
months.
We
got
married
because
we
loved
each
other.
But
now,
I
feel
a
step
like
marriage

bahut
soch
samajh
kar
karna
chahiye
(one
needs
to
think
a
lot).

‘I
spent
a
very
good
life
with
her.
Reena
was
not
wrong
in
any
way.
She
is
an
amazing
person.
We
grew
up
together.
But
I
think
at
such
a
young
age

itni
hadbadahat
mein
shaadi
nahi
karni
chahiye
(one
must
not
get
married
in
a
hurry).

‘But
had
I
not
done
that,
I
would
not
be
sitting
and
doing
the
interview
here.’

Aamir
said
the
biggest
gifts
from
his
marriage
to
Reena
were
his
two
children,
Junaid
and
Ira.

‘Marrying
Reena
was
not
mistake.
I
spent
16
years
with
her.
So
it
is
not
that
everything
was
a
mistake.
But
what
mistake
you
do
your
life
becomes
that.
Today,
I
think
I
cannot
get
married
in
four
months.
In
those
days,
I
never
used
to
take
therapy
either.
I
see
red
flags
very
quickly
now,’
Aamir
says.

What
was
the
red
flag
in
his
marriage?

‘I
was
lost
in
making
films
and
I
was
a
workaholic.
This
was
a
red
flag
from
my
side.
I
was
very
emotional.
If
someone
hurt
me,
I
used
to
shut
down
that
person
from
my
life.
And
that,
you
just
could
not
reach
me.’

His
second
wife
Kiran
Rao
experienced
that
‘shut
down’.

‘Once
I
got
hurt
with
Kiran,
I
stopped
talking
to
her.
I
did
not
respond
to
her.
At
one
point,
she
started
crying.
At
that
moment,
there
were
two
emotions
going
on
inside
me:
Anger
and
ego.
I
would
not
pardon
her.

‘I
could
see
her
getting
hurt
and
I
would
tell
myself
to
go
and
speak
to
her.
But
I
was
just
unable
to
take
steps
in
that
direction.
It
is
only
after
therapy
that
I
understood
that
what
I
was
doing
was
wrong,’
reveals
Aamir.

‘Man
should
not
be
too
judgemental
and
hard-hearted
when
it
comes
to
emotion.’

Today,
he
has
a
good
relationship
with
his
former
wives
and
they
are
a
part
of
his
extended
family.

Speaking
about
a
viral
video
where
Aamir
is
seen
dancing
with
Kiran
in
Ladakh
after
their
divorce,
Aamir
said,
‘I
was
dancing
with
Kiran
in
Ladakh
after
the
divorce
and
people
were
wondering
how
we
could
do
that.
But
we
are
a
part
of
the
family,
so
we
are
dancing
together.
I
cannot
explain
these
things
to
people.
The
same
holds
true
for
Reena.
Reena
and
I
respect
each
other
a
lot.
We
have
love
for
each
other
in
our
hearts.’

Now,
at
60,
Aamir,
who
is
dating
Gauri
Spratt,
has
decided
not
to
get
married
again.

When
asked
what
changed
his
decision
about
not
marrying
again,
he
replied,
‘Gauri’
referring
to
his
current
girlfriend,


Gauri
Spratt.
He
added
that
at
60,
marriage
didn’t
seem
‘appropriate’.